Apology- people with internal insecurity can't do it.
It makes them too susceptible. They feel it makes them appear soft and weak, and they fear others will take advantage of their weakness. Their security is based on opinions of other people, they worry about what others might think.
LEO ROSKIN said "It is the weak who are cruel. Gentleness can only be expected from the strong."
Once upon a time in the animal kingdom, there was a contest for who could prove to be the strongest within
24hrs. The Lion stepped out, roared, made so much. Noise and everyone took to their heels, even the judges. No one could even stand to take record of his 'mighty works'. The elephant came there after, fell trees, destroyed so many things, so much so that no one could even stand around to see or watch what he was doing, and so did other wild animals perform....
Then came the dove, he sat upon a tree and started to whistle sweet songs, every animal with a name in the forest gathered to hear the dove- it was a one man concerto (hmmm really interesting).
After the show the judges had no results for Mr Lion, because they couldn't even stay around to give points and credits, so they asked the Lion, "if you say you're the strongest, what's your point?", the lion said, "I roared and the whole kingdom scattered", now Mr elephant? The elephant made noise about the turbulence and havoc he had caused, and so did other predators.
Finally the dove was asked the same question and she said softly, "do we all believe that the greatest strength is in unity?", there was thundering echo of a ''yes'', which shook the forest in a way no one had ever seen. Then she said "strength is unity, I brought everyone together, I pulled together the midget and the mighty". There was a unanimous and accordant ovation, and she was crowned 'STRONGEST'.
It's not the one who throws stones that is strong, but the one who bears the stones thrown.
If aggression, snapbacks, retaliation, violence, bickering, were marks of strength, why is it more difficult to be calm, gentle, say I'm sorry, I love you, please excuse me, thank you, pardon me ?
It's easier to misbehave than to behave, so which one is a prove of strength?
Gentleness is a major prerequisite for interpersonal relationship.
These are just excerpts from a book you should be anticipating, follow on twitter for updates if you're expecting the book. I went further to discuss the psychological effects of apologies. I'm using 'Apology' because it is an obvious outward expression of gentleness that is common to us. Apology in this context is about generally being polite.
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